Ideas: Dealing with Reflux and encouraging sleep at night

[Kia]

Originally posted in New Members

Feb 25, 2014 20:30:23 GMT 13 Jaimee said:

I have a baby with serve reflux and it sucks he is the most u happiest baby he's on medication and every single little thing suggest we have tried, and i was told to go out to these groups but my baby would just cry while everyone else sat nicely and i couldn't hear anything anyone say or listen because was to busy trying to stop my baby crying, so that kind of defeat the purpose of going out, which added more stress, i struggle every single day, to top it of my husband has left us because it was to hard, and he's never got up once in The night my son is almost 8 months now and still waking four to nine tiMes a night, im tired, i am seeing the maternity mental health nurse every couple weeks but she dosnt say much and just keeps asking if i want to go on drugs. Ive been to mother craft at waikato hospital and the plunket nurse wants me to go again, the only thing i have ever wanted to do in my life is be a mum and this sucks, i do have support from my parents they are great but still the struggle of everyday life is hard i think why me who did i piss off? Broken home, u happy baby, not what i had in mind.



Any ideas please to help with Reflux and Sleeping issues here? Or indeed any tips or encouragement in general very welcome 


Thanks,

Kia

[Kijaco]

Hi Jaimee, I know exactly what you are going through. My boy from day 10 (he's now 17 months) screamed for the first year of his life. He also had severe silent reflux which he was on medication for. He was on losec. The thing with losec is there are two different sorts. One comes in a liquid sort which is not hugely effective. The other comes in a capsule with little beads in it. The capsule works really well. Im not sure what medication your little one is on, but if it's losec id look at what type hes taking as switching to the capsule could be very beneficial. My boy would scream in his capsule in the car, in his pram, literally everywhere. He didn't sleep much during the day, usually 40 minutes three times a day if I was lucky. He now only has one sleep and it's still only 40 minutes! He sleeps not to bad over night, I think because he was so exhausted from no sleep during the day. Although he does have a tendancy to want to start his day at 5.20am... Unfortunately I did't find anything that helped us either, except being there for him. Was terribly hard at the time, I think back now and really don't want to relive what I went through. I would perhaps see if you can get him into a paediatrician? My boy was and still is on a hydrolysed formula which is prescribed through a doctor or paediatrician, as he was having trouble breaking down the proteins in the milk and getting a really upset tummy and terribly constipated. He still suffers sometimes now from constipation if he doesn't drink enough water... I found wrapping my boy and also having white noise playing in his room helped a little bit (he still has the white noise now!) Im sorry I can't offer any other help, except please know you are not alone in feeling like this. I to had a really unhappy baby whilst everyone round me's babys used to goo and gaa and sleep where ever. My parents were also a really great help, you seem like you have really supportive parents to. Please know there is light at the end of the tunnel, sometimes it's just a bit of a bumped road getting there

[Michelle]

Hi Jaimee, I take it you are in the Waikato? I had my baby in Waikato but have moved to the Horowhenua when my baby was 5weeks old. He basically had reflux from day dot. Like you, all I wanted was to at be a mum! My partner worked away in Oz during my pregnancy and it felt like the hardest time of my life. So really it didn't start off to well, I had my little boy at a&e 4times and requested to be referred up to paediatrician at Waikato that night. They got the hint I wasn't leaving without a referral. Everytime I went they just told me babies don't get reflux and Im a new mum basically without a clue. In the meantime I had been to Waikato family centre for few days and they couldnt help me much and recommended seeing a doc, he had also had tongue tie snipped as midwife thought that was the issue, we tried gaviscon, pepti junior, losec, breastmilk thickened, thickenedformula and we had taken him to chiro and osteo.. really we were at wits end with a baby that screamed and power chucked constantly. Paediatrician at hospital was useless and told me to go to mothercraft because my baby needed a routine. I could of punched him, Basically fast forward 5months and a lot of tough times we have finally seen a change about 80% improvement. We ended up back on thickened formula and solids 3times aday, we decided not to take medication because there wasn't a change.
Sorry for the long story, but I fully understand your pain. Maybe once a week you could get someone to have your baby for a night so you could try rest. One night to them isn't a lot compared with your constant 24/7 no sleep. May give you something to look forward to. I know sometimes it is just a matter of growing out of it and I know because I got told that a million times that it doesn't make it any easier now. If you need someone to talk to or anything please let me know. It really is hard and sometimes I felt like giving up as there never seems to be an end to it. I have free national calling so if you want to chat please let me know. p.s im not aweirdo lol
Take care and you will get through it.

[Kia]

Thank you so much for posting kijaco and michelle. Jaimee I hope it helps a little, even if it‘s just to know you are not alone. Cyber hugs ((())) Kia x